Book summary “Excuse me, your life is waiting”: summary

Introduction

You spend your days struggling against difficult circumstances while feeling like a helpless victim of external fate. You work harder, push harder, and try to fix every problem through sheer physical effort, yet you only attract more frustration.

You create your life circumstances entirely through your feelings by operating as an electromagnetic magnet under the Law of Attraction.

Lynn Grabhorn reveals in Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting that emotional energy dictates your reality rather than your thoughts or hard work. The book outlines how to stop magnetizing unwanted conditions, master your frequency, and intentionally manifest your true desires.

• How do your hidden feelings sabotage your daily experiences?
• Why does trying to fix problems actually attract more trouble?
• How do you shift your frequency to align with source energy?
• What steps allow you to receive money and love effortlessly?

1. The Physics of Thought and Feeling

You create your reality through your emotional vibration rather than your physical labor.

Most conventional self-help books fail because they focus on positive thinking or physical action. According to the Law of Attraction, like attracts like. Your emotions project electromagnetic wave patterns that act as walking magnets, pulling back circumstances that match your exact vibrational frequency.

A young boy named Jessie stepped up to a Little League baseball bat with unceremonious confidence and hit home runs simply by feeling what it would be like to connect.

True personal power begins when you abandon victimhood and accept total responsibility for your vibrational output. Believing in luck, fate, karma, or external control keeps you locked in discontent. Once the Law of Attraction is understood, you realize there are no victims, only cocreators in thought and feeling who can choose their emotional focus freely.

The Law of Attraction

Feelings act as an infallible magic genie and electromagnetic authority that create your reality based on the vibrations you emit. Creation operates by infusing thought with feeling, which creates a specific vibration that magnetizes corresponding circumstances. All techniques boil down to learning to identify a good feeling from a bad feeling, transforming you from a creator by accident into a deliberate creator.

Any thought not related to joy, such as guilt, worry, or stress, is fear-based and vibrates at an extremely low frequency. This causes negative sensations often compared to swallowing cut-up glass, leading to a habit of feeling bad or flat-lining. Conversely, thoughts of appreciation, love, and gratitude vibrate at high frequencies that match your high-frequency natural state of well-being.

The Magic Genie of Emotion

Deliberate creation requires a specific four-step progression from identifying unwanted conditions to allowing the desired outcome.

• Step 1. Identify what you DON'T want.
• Step 2. From that, identify what you DO want.
• Step 3. Get into the feeling place of what you want.
• Step 4. Expect, listen, and allow it to happen.

2. The Danger of Don't Wants

Focusing on what you do not want acts like a tuning fork that magnetizes unwanted circumstances.

Step one of deliberate creation starts with identifying what you don't want. Every negative emotion stems from a lack of what you truly desire. You must use those negative feelings as Springboards to well-being to clarify your preferences.

• Step 1. Identify what you DON'T WANT.

The Sixteen-Second Rule

When you focus on a thought for sixteen seconds or longer with emotion, you start to match its frequency. Thinking about one problem acts like a tuning fork, pulling in other unrelated issues on the same wavelength. This creates a spiraling chain of bad events.

Thinking long enough about disliking your job can trigger a chain reaction of unrelated annoyances like a fender-bender, a stopped-up sink, lost keys, a broken refrigerator, and a stubbed toe.

The Trap of Lack

Because people spend decades focusing on problems, bills, and annoyances, they constantly generate low-frequency energy. This energy acts like a jungle trail, making negative thoughts easier to repeat and manifest.

The author ignored a stomach knot while closing a difficult mortgage loan for a young couple, focusing entirely on the loan falling through. One mile later, a cassette player acted up. Two miles after that, the author hit a four-lane traffic jam. Twenty minutes elapsed before being rear-ended in traffic. Ten minutes after that, coffee spilled on original loan papers before the loan ultimately failed.

3. Unlocking Desires and Intentions

People are conditioned from childhood to suppress their desires because wanting is wrongly associated with being bad, selfish, or leading to disappointment. Children quickly learn that wanting things brings the heartache of not having them. Researchers note that toddlers are told no over a sixty thousand times in a three-year period, teaching them that wanting equates to bad.

A toddler exploring and getting screamed at near a glittering glass vase on the TV set shows how early this conditioning starts. In adulthood, people retreat into socially acceptable desires and the dogmatic Shoulds and Have To's.

You must transition from negative lack-based wishes to positive deliberate intents and feelings.

The Three Kinds of Wants

There are three basic types of wants: Real Wants derived from Don't Wants, Negative Wants rooted in a lack, and Rightful Wants which are the legitimate desires to experience life. Real Wants are discovered by simply flipping a Don't Want over. Negative Wants focus on the absence of something, such as wanting to be rich or well, which generates feelings of lack, longing, or empty wishing. Rightful Wants are the inherent right of every individual to test creative skills and displace any Don't Want at any time.

To manifest a desire, you must find the feeling place of having the want while completely avoiding the feeling place of not having it. The universe responds strictly to what you are vibrating in every moment. If you feel low or discouraged when thinking of a desire, you are focused on its absence. If you feel excited or a warm buzz, you are in vibrational harmony with the desire.

• Hold thoughts on a Want for a few moments until an emotional feeling comes up.
• Tune into that feeling to check if it is low or a warm buzz.
• Feel and get jazzed about the reality of the desire as if you already have it.

Asking and answering why you want something charges your emotional battery and generates the passionate energy needed to magnetize the desire. While the What defines the goal, the Whys charge the battery and start the juices running. Repeatedly asking why deepens emotional engagement, transforming a flat statement into a high-frequency vibration.

A seminar participant who wanted a summer cottage initially stated a dull reason, but through repeated why questions uncovered deep feelings of leisure, freedom, and the sights and sounds of the sea.

• State what you want.
• Ask yourself why you want it.
• Keep asking why over and over even when you think you have no more answers until you feel marvelous.

The Power of Intending

Turning wants into statements of intent combines desire with expectation, opening new energy pathways and utilizing high-frequency source energy. Because the word want can evoke emotional resistance, intending merges I want and I expect into a dynamic force. Practicing on small daily items builds momentum and protective energy blankets against negative beliefs.

The author intends to arrive safely, find a convenient parking space, keep a bank account at a certain level, and find joy throughout the day.

• Practice intending for small things throughout the day like parking places or being on time.
• Convert major Wants into statements of intent.
• Feel the strength, authority, and force of command when speaking an intent.

4. Stopping Fix-It Mongers

Current negative life conditions are simply the result of past energy flow and do not dictate future reality. People mistakenly believe that whatever they experience in the moment is unchangeable reality that must be accepted or fought. In truth, reality is only an effect caused by past energy. Staring at and reacting to unwanted conditions creates a closed valve and attracts more of the same negativity.

Aggressively trying to fix problems from a negative emotional state only amplifies unwanted conditions.

When circumstances are unfavorable, you instinctively react with physical remedies to remove or repair the issue. However, trying to fix things while feeling disgruntled, frustrated, or terrified is resisting natural energy with a closed valve. This merely attracts more of what you are trying to escape.

Conditions Do Not Matter

Many believe that action is the magic word and dive blindly into heavy exertion to fix their problems. This Hi Ho Silver syndrome represents wasted activity initiated out of negative, flap-around energy rather than inspired guidance. True deliberate creation relies on open-valve inspiration rather than brute force.

The author compares frantic problem solvers to the Lone Ranger galloping blindfolded down the trail on a white horse shouting Hi Ho Silver to fight injustice.

Focus-Switching Tricks

Since it is impossible to solve a problem in the same frequency in which it was created, you can use practical tricks to force a release of preoccupation. These methods interrupt a negative focus and alter your energetic vibration toward a higher frequency:

• Trick #1. Switch focus. Now! Find something else, anything else to think about that will get you to feeling even a tiny bit better, such as a mate, a song, a pet, or a vacation, until your mood begins to change.
• Trick #2. Tender-talk it out. Now! Start soothing talking to yourself, out loud, comforting yourself like a loving parent until you feel resistance to higher energies back down.
• Trick #3. Tough-talk it out. Now! Use stern, horse-sense reasoning out loud to point out what will happen if you continue to stew, using hard logic and faking it until a feeling shift takes place.
• Trick #4. Do something fun. Now! Get physical by walking, baking, cleaning, or going to a movie to take your stuck focus off the condition and soften your resistance.

5. Shifting Frequencies and Appreciation

Emotional intensity registers physically as a WHOOSH! sensation in the solar plexus because it stimulates the adrenal glands. When startled or feeling extreme joy, the adrenals release a secretion that creates a noticeable sensation in the pit of your stomach. Controlling this sensation allows you to control the intensity of Feel Good vibrations.

The author experienced this gut-level WHOOSH! when running her mortgage business while driving, comparing it to the feeling of swerving to avoid a car crash or being told she was fired.

Appreciation and the gentle inner smile act as the fastest pathways to align with high-frequency source energy.

Humans constantly operate in one of three emotional states: Victim Mode, Flat-Lining Mode, or Turned On Mode. In Victim Mode, you cycle through negative loops and attract the same unwanted conditions. In Flat-Lining Mode, you are neither up nor down, living off second-rate gas and erratic energy flows. In Turned On Mode, you vibrate in harmony with your Expanded Self, pulling in positive events while shielded from negative vibes.

The Gentle Inner Smile

A physical smile connected to an inner warm feeling can jump-start a vibrational shift and create a subtle bodily buzz within seconds. To overcome being an emotional dead battery, you can use a meaningful, loving smile like the one elicited by newborn kittens or a giggling baby.

• 1) You jump-start with a facial smile as warm and tender as possible.
• 2) Right away, and with your physical smile still going, you reach down inside and pump up the tender feeling coming from that smile until it becomes the melted butter, the warm fuzzy of your Gentle Inner Smile, and you can feel a soft little buzz somewhere, no matter how slight.
• 3) Once you have got the Gentle Inner Smile going, you replace that warm fuzzy with a special flavor of your own choice such as affection, or enthusiasm, or just plain old being tickled pink.
• 4) (Optional!) If you want to, this is a good time in this high energy to fold in a specific Want/Intent, but don't do that until you've gotten used to experiencing the overlay emotion for a period of time.

The Power of Appreciation

Appreciation is the highest and fastest frequency for attraction. One minute of intense appreciation overrides thousands of hours in Victim or Flat-Lining modes. This emotional surge must come from the depths of your being rather than just a casual thought and can be directed at anything, including mundane objects.

The author plays the Hug-A-Bum game, where she visualizes rushing into the arms of difficult strangers or lowlifes on the street in a profound bear hug of love.

6. Allowing and Inspired Action

You must expect your desire, listen to your Guidance, and step back to let the universe handle the execution.

Step Four of Deliberate Creation

Step 4 requires you to drop physical force and trust the process. Instead of trying to figure out how to make your Want transpire, you must act on the inspirations coming from your Expanded Self. Keep your valve open and expect that your Want is on its way. Step back and let the universe do its thing, avoiding impatience.

• Expect it, listen, and allow the universe to bring it.
• Stop trying to figure out how to make your Want transpire.
• Act on the inspirations coming from your Expanded Self.
• Keep your valve open and expect that your Want is on its way.
• Step back and let the universe do its thing, avoiding impatience.

Achieving goals through inspired action flows effortlessly, while fear-based pushing leads to struggle and failure. The author formed Listener Corporation and later produced a national infomercial for Life Course 101 effortlessly during high-frequency periods, but struggled for thirteen years and failed with multiple ventures when operating from fear.

Clearing Inner Resistance

Pulling in higher frequencies acts like a stream of water on a muddy sidewalk, uncovering hidden cracks of inner resistance and old fears. When a desired manifestation does not appear in a reasonable time, you must keep yourself hyped up by talking about your Want several times a day.

• Let it be okay that your Want has not shown up yet.
• Check what you are flowing energy to and avoid focusing on Don't Wants.
• Keep yourself hyped up by talking about your Want several times a day to yourself, pets, or plants.
• Spend ten to fifteen minutes every day getting buzzed about your Want.
• Ask yourself what has been bothering me the moment you feel shaky or off base.
• Identify the uncovered old belief, fear, or Don't Want.
• Spend three minutes a day using Tender Talking to talk it out and talk it down for thirty days.

Intuitive hunches and unexpected shudges are forms of divine Guidance that must be followed immediately without hesitation. George and Sally avoided a fatal eight-car pile up on the freeway because Sally insisted they exit immediately based on a sudden intuitive warning.

• Get off auto pilot and pay attention.
• Listen and stay alert for little pushes, signs, and hunches.
• Always follow your deepest impulse if it feels good, rather than conforming to others.

7. Rewriting Your Money Script

Overcoming the heavy negative vibration of money requires present-time scripting and opening your valve to receive.

The word money carries the top negative word vibration in human language. This emotional charge creates an energetic wall that blocks financial abundance. You internalize societal struggles and ancestral fears starting from childhood. You treat money as an adversary instead of flowing energy.

The New Script Technique

You must override limiting beliefs by immersing yourself in a present-time daydream script. Talk out loud as if chatting with a friend about the finished desire. Taste the satisfaction and feel the passion to build a new magnetic vortex.

• Concoct a present-time whimsical narration about your want, spoken out loud as if chatting with a friend.
• Ensure the narration is never about what is going to happen, only about what has or is happening now.
• Feel the passion and savor every detail and nuance of the daydream.
• Repeat the story daily, giving the energy outlets to flow into.

The author used a toned-down script focusing on paying bills easily and successful mortgage programs rather than multi-million dollar windfalls. This practice ultimately increased her income by 830 percent in a year and a half.

The Open to Receive Principle

Financial flow requires lowering resistance and stopping valve-closing excuses. Having money is not about hard work, poor education, inept staff, or bad timing. You must learn to receive instead of operating solely from guilt.

• Place signs around the house reading "OPEN TO RECEIVE!"
• Set an intent to lower resistance to shoulds and shouldn't and make learning to receive a conscious Want.
• Watch out for valve-closing excuses such as poor education, inept staff, or bad timing.

Carry a large bill and mentally spend it on numerous items to break vibrational habit patterns. Jocelyn, facing severe financial problems and unable to break her frustration, used the $100 trick at a state mall. Upon returning home, she found multiple financial help messages, mortgage approval, and a new sales approach idea.

8. Relationships and True Forgiveness

Relationships reflect your internal vibration and feeling states rather than the behavior of a partner. Accusing, berating, or trying to rescue represent negative attraction. Focusing on an annoying habit with a closed valve perpetuates and enlarges that behavior.

Relationships reflect your internal vibration, and changing them requires dropping blame to open your own valve.

Blame acts as a charged electromagnetic energy that always makes a bad situation worse. Sending blame toward someone who has been difficult causes people to mess up further. Shifting from blame to appreciation for personnel can instantly resolve chaotic situations.

Friends whose luggage was lost on a flight spent hours fuming at airline employees, causing a total information blackout. When they stopped berating staff and switched to appreciation, they received a call within minutes that the luggage was found.

The Culprit Is Blame

To change a relationship, you must stop trying to fix the partner's valve and focus on opening your own. Remaining focused on what is wrong creates a repeating script, whereas scripting the desired outcome attracts vibrational harmony.

The author fumed over tenants who missed rent payments until she caught her mood in a supermarket. By driving to a steam room, shifting to appreciation, and talking out loud about them getting new jobs, she received a visit not ten minutes after she got home stating they found a way to pay immediately.

Never Mind Your Partner

True forgiveness is not about the transgressor, but is the complete release of resistance to positive energy. Honest forgiveness requires adopting unconditional love by deciding to keep your valve open to well-being no matter what.

Families can overcome severe domestic turmoil when members shift from a Don't Want focus on each other. You can apply specific steps to restore domestic harmony:

• Hold family meetings to voice Wants openly and enthusiastically.
• Transition the discussion to uncover the Whys behind what everyone wants.
• Keep your own valve open and maintain connectedness to help others reconnect to Source energy.

Conclusion

You create your reality entirely through your feelings by operating as an electromagnetic magnet under the Law of Attraction. Mastering your emotional vibration transforms every area of life from health to wealth. You shift from a reactive victim of circumstance into a deliberate creator of your destiny by maintaining high-frequency states.

1. Monitor your feelings constantly to detect whether you are vibrating in positive alignment or negative lack.
2. Stop focusing on what you do not want and redirect your attention entirely toward your desired outcomes.
3. Express genuine appreciation for everything in your current reality to open your internal valve for receiving.
4. Practice true forgiveness by dropping blame and reclaiming your personal power from past grievances.
5. Take inspired action only when you feel joyful anticipation rather than desperate obligation.

10 Key Ideas

1. You create your life circumstances entirely through your feelings by operating as an electromagnetic magnet under the Law of Attraction.
2. When you focus on a thought for sixteen seconds or longer with emotion, you start to match its frequency and magnetize corresponding circumstances.
3. Because people spend decades focusing on problems, bills, and annoyances, they constantly generate low-frequency energy that attracts unwanted conditions.
4. Aggressively trying to fix problems from a negative emotional state only amplifies unwanted conditions rather than solving them.
5. Current negative life conditions are simply the result of past energy flow and do not dictate your future reality.
6. Appreciation and the gentle inner smile act as the fastest pathways to align with high-frequency source energy.
7. Overcoming the heavy negative vibration of money requires present-time scripting and opening your valve to receive.
8. Relationships reflect your internal vibration and feeling states rather than the behavior of a partner.
9. True forgiveness is not about the transgressor, but is the complete release of resistance to positive energy by keeping your valve open to well-being no matter what.
10. Mastering your emotional vibration transforms every area of life from health to wealth as you shift from a reactive victim into a deliberate creator.